verse 1: “A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.”
No one likes their head “bitten off” by harsh words. The human response is normally to respond in kind. Today’s proverb is the advice on how to defuse that situation: a gentle word.
In football, there have always been accusations that some “referees are blind”…that they don’t know how to call a game. Yes, there are good officials and bad officials. One thing we, as high school football officials, were taught was to be honest; if you make a mistake, admit it. Many times, coaches feel like an official who blows a call just tries to lie and to cover it up.
Once, in a game, I whistled a play dead, because I thought I saw the ball-carrier dive across the middle of the line for the yardage for a first down. What I didn’t see was that the run up the middle was a beautiful fake play; the real ball-carrier was executing a sweep around the end of the line; it was this play that got the first down, and probably would’ve gotten the touchdown. Even though the home team with the ball was way ahead on the scoreboard, I had made a mistake, so I told my head official (the referee) this. He had wisely marked where the play ended. The coach came out, blowing and snorting mad, during a time-out to ask what happened. I looked him square in the eye and said, “Coach, I bought the fake. I blew the whistle. I screwed up.” His reaction was priceless; he froze in mid-expression, like something out of a cartoon. The last thing he apparently expected to hear was the truth! 🙂 He recovered, stammered a minute, and said, “well…it was a beautiful play!” To which I said, “Coach, it was a gorgeous play! But I messed up.” My referee administered the options resulting from the play; the coach chose to take the results of the play where it was blown dead, giving him a first down. The next play, the team scored a touchdown.
What could’ve been a shouting match was defused with honesty and a gentle reply. As a matter of fact, that coach and I later laughed about it during another time out.
“A gentle answer turns away wrath”.
Something to think about today.
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