Posts Tagged ‘know-it-all’

verse 6: “Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.”

I can’t remember if I have ever mentioned this story, but here goes anyway. Back when I officiated high school football, I had a friend of mine who was a veteran referee, who decided to have a heart-to-heart chat with me while driving to a game. What he had to tell me wasn’t what I wanted to hear, but he gave me some honest criticism on how I was coming across as a know-it-all in meetings (I hadn’t intended to be that, I actually asked a lot of questions wanting to learn.) Though it stung at first, I realized that he was doing it because he was my friend. Once I realized the wisdom in his words, I actually came to value his advice even more and to value his friendship because he had been honest with me.

Contrast the “wounds of a friend” with the “kisses of an enemy”…in my Bible, I had a footnote reference to Matthew 26:49. It’s the verse where Judas betrays Jesus to the soldiers with a kiss. I don’t think I need to even elaborate on that, you get the point.

Sometimes as friends, we have to tell other friends things they don’t want to hear or may not like. However, we wouldn’t be friends who care though, unless we did that. Remember, Jesus is our friend, and yes He does rebuke and correct us when we need it.

Something to think about.

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verse 8: “Do not reprove a scoffer, lest he hate you, Reprove a wise man, and he will love you.”

Back when I use to officiate high school football, we had an away game that took some time to travel to. While most of the crew slept on the trip up to the site, the referee and I had a chat in the front of the van. As it turned out, he had been wanting to give me some advice; I was coming across as a “know-it-all” because of my constant questions during educational classes during our weekly meetings. Now, I truly didn’t mean to come across that way, and at first I felt stung by his constructive criticism. I defended my position as I was truly wanting to learn. He agreed, but pointed out some steps (from experience) that might help me avoid the unwanted reputation I was getting.

I could have taken his criticism in 2 ways. I could’ve continued to argue and eventually dismiss it, thus keeping on the track I was headed down. That is the way of the scoffer; you can’t tell him anything. Now, I am not calling myself wise here, but I did choose the way of the wise (although begrudgingly at first 🙂 ). I tried my friend’s advice and found that, he was right; if I listened more than I talked, it was amazing what I began to pick up. Although this friend and I have “butted heads” before on officiating discussions, I knew where he and I stood with each other. I knew I could talk to him, and he could talk to me, and we could keep things open between us. I later told him that I was grateful for the friend he was to me; he returned the compliment.

The day you stop learning or trying to learn is the day you began to slide toward the way of the scoffer. The wise always want to increase in wisdom, and will love you for the times you help to “correct” their path.

Something to think about.

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Proverbs 3:7-8

verse 7: “Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the LORD and turn away from evil.”

Some of you may remember a cartoon called “The Smurfs” (okay, sorry for the groans I’ve heard from some of you just now!) If you remember this cartoon, you’ll recall the know-it-all character of Brainy Smurf. He was the one who supposedly was as wise as Papa Smurf, and didn’t mind showing off his smarts. Most of the time he wound up being tossed out of the village on his head by the other Smurfs!

We’ve all known people like Brainy; some of us may have even been like Brainy. These people think they know it all. It’s not until they are proven wrong (and had their ego balloons deflated!) that they hopefully learn their lesson…that they are not wise in their own eyes. But there is One who is.

God is not just all-powerful, He is all-knowing as well. He is just a prayer away, when it comes to asking for His wisdom. Remember, as it says in James 1:5 “But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all men generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”

Have a blessed day!

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